First let me say that hair is hair and as a woman you should do your hair the way you like it. Let me address the elephant in the room (you know the one that said you don’t like who you are as a black woman because you relax your hair) well let me say this I truly did not believe that all women who relax their hair wanted to look European, and so I came to this conclusion that for me relaxed hair is easier. Now I look great with my natural hair and I could manage it but it took too much time out of my life considering that I’m a working mother, and wife, so it was kinda stressful. Nothing I felt should be taking up so much time in my life especially hair. So my thoughts now…. I believe that as a black woman relaxing does not mean that you don’t love the way you look, some actually prefer straight hair, some do it to be more manageable, heck there are some white women that use permanent straighteners because their hair can be curly too so does that make them more white? At the end of the day I’m proud to be a black woman and when I relax my hair it doesn’t look European it has a textured straight look, and loving yourself is something that is on the Inside. So relaxing has help me to spend more time with my family and things that are more Important to me than my hair.
Now let me address the other elephant the health factor. I believe in healthy beauty but as I always stated health starts from the inside out, you can be natural and eat a very unhealthy diet and so it wouldn’t matter if your natural or relaxed, now sure natural is healthier than relaxed, but if your hair is causing you stress that’s not healthy so balance is everything. So if you prefer to relax like myself do it in moderation 4 to 5 times a year, also eat a healthy diet if being healthy is Important to you, and don’t stress, enjoy life and you! If your natural same thing eat a healthy diet, and enjoy your life. I don’t see why we have to be divided were all black women lets embrace our relaxed, natural, texturized hair, because at the end of the day we are women of color and you will always be a black woman no matter how you do your hair. I wanted to address this because we have too much division over hair. Be bold, black, and beautiful in whatever hairstyle you desire!